I was depressed, uninspired and my self-confidence hit rock bottom, it was the closest thing I ever felt to being dead.
This phase of life is so confusing. Sometimes you can be lost. The pressure is everywhere. In the digital age, it’s hard not to compare yourself and your situation to others who are doing better than you. I woke up and I felt like I have the world but have nothing at the same time. One day I decided to take control of my life, stop being sorry for myself and pull myself out from the abyss that I’m in.
1. Be Gentle with Yourself.
This is the time where we start having realizations. We start having conversations with ourselves about the decisions that we made- the good and the bad. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Forgive your mistakes and be mindful not to do it again.
2. Do not procrastinate.
I can’t even begin to describe how toxic this is. Procrastination is a very disgusting habit no one should have. Being in our 20s is an unfair advantage we have. Now is the best time to start doing what you want to do. Build your brand. Start a business. Lose weight. Make that Youtube channel. Write that book. Want to quit that job and work for yourself instead? Do it now.
I am the Queen of Procrastination or at least used to be and trust me when I say that I have so many regrets because of it.
3. Stop limiting yourself.
Most of us don’t have too many responsibilities yet that’s why this is the perfect time to work on YOU. I want you to do something. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine that in a world where there are no limits, who are you? Who can you be?
Now I’ll tell you what I see in me. In a world where there are no limits, I have a very successful career doing what I love, I also have businesses that bring me hundreds of thousands a month, I have a successful marriage and I am on the cover of Forbes Asia as one of Asia’s Richest Self Made Women. Is that impossible? No, it isn’t because somebody did it, it means it can be done. Dream big that it scares you, gives you chills, and excites you at the same time.
4. Do the work now.
Now that we figured out who you want to be let’s do the hardest part- the getting your ass up and do the work part. Our ambitions are quite overwhelming but if you break them down to smaller milestones, one day you’ll find yourself at the finish line. Do you want to be the best selling author? You better write that book. Do you want to lose 80 lbs? Then start cutting out calories and do your cardio. If you feel like you are being left alone by your friends because they are having fun and here you are reading this article because you want to better your life, then trust me you are not missing out on anything!
If you do the work now, you can enjoy it later, travel the world dancing with flamingos while others are just getting started to do the damn work.
5. Read More
They said an average CEO reads 50 books per year. Warren Buffett spends five to six hours per day reading five newspapers and 500 pages of corporate reports. Bill Gates reads 50 books per year. Mark Zuckerberg reads at least one book every two weeks. Elon Musk grew up reading two books a day. Do you know what all they have in common? They are Billionaires! Yup with the big fat “B”
It is only when you know more, you earn more. Feed your mind with information that brings or add value to your life. You feel better when you know better.
Never stop learning.