I’m not new to long distance relationship. When I was young my father worked as a contractor in a construction company, often times the projects we’re in different cities so me and my mother usually left at home due to my studies as well. I witnessed their love and commitment and how they handled the situation. I was 17 when I met Tony. We met on Facebook he lives in United States and we pretty much did the whole LDR thing for a year and a half. I thought LDR was easy because my parents painted me that picture but in I was already in it, it was so challenging but we made it work! We met each other in person in October 2017 and the feeling was surreal and it’s all WORTH IT! So today, I want to share with you tips to help your relationship handle the distance.
Stay in Contact
This is very important. Always find a way to spend time and talk to each other. Arrange your schedules and do whatever you gotta do to communicate regularly with your partner. There’s no such thing as “too busy” it’s just a matter of priority.
Do Things Together to Create Bond
LDR couples can still have fun. YES! We tried it before. There are so many applications today that couples on LDR can use to deepened that connection. You can still go on movie dates, play games together and learn new things together.
Don’t Go to Bed with UNRESOLVED Issues
Every now and then you will have misunderstanding- it could be a language barrier, cultural differences, religion or just any topics that both you don’t agree and somehow lead into an argument. Do not go to bed while you’re still upset. You need to sit on the phone and communicate with your partner regarding the matter. Compromise is the key- it’s not about whose right or wrong, if you two want to be together it’s better to understand each other’s point of view and settle it in a mature and civilized way.
Relationship like this needs a lot of work. You need to stay committed to your girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband. Stay HONEST to each other. Stay FAITHFUL. Avoid situations that will jeopardize your relationship. Everyday in everything you do always always choose your relationship. Lust is common but real love is rare. So cheaters, this thing is not for you.
Set an End-Date
The goal is to be with your partner in person, to finally see them. It’s easier to make the LDR work if you have a plan in which you can see a light at the end of the tunnel. It will give you hope, inspiration and it gives you something to look forward into.Going into along–distance relationship without a plan means that there is no end in sight.
Long Distance Relationship has many aspects in which it can be extremely difficult. Even though you’re miles apart you need to keep things interesting and engage into “activities” that spice things up. Flirt with your partner any chance you can get. I’m going to say it again, FLIRT!
Surround Yourself with People Who Support Your Relationship
Yup, you heard it right! Many people will not understand and they probably never will be. Friends and sometimes our family will judge us and questioned our plans. We know that they only care about us but their care is based from FEAR. Join online forums that support LDR, hear success stories. Sometimes you will stumble into some information online about the disadvantages of being in a LDR. But bear in mind that nobody else know your relationship better than you do.
Don’t put your life on hold
LDR requires a lot of sacrifice but do not lose yourself in the process. Love should make you feel at ease and help you to be a better version of yourself. Don’t isolate yourself we can’t be an island. There’s so many things to see, to discover and to learn. Live each day fully, whether your partner is absent or not. Not only it will add value to you as a person/partner, it makes the time go faster too!
Don’t Rely on Technology
Technology is our best friend, without it we are doomed. BUT, we shouldn’t rely on it too much. Try sending your partner care packages or letters. Gifts don’t need to be extravagant, once its coming from the person you love it will be appreciated!
PUT GOD FIRST
This should be the first tip but I saved the best for last. Our relationship survived the distance because of our faith. We prayed, we asked the LORD to be in our relationship and bless our situation. We prayed for each other for guidance that in everything we do, it is in accordance to God’s will. Its so easy to resist temptation if God is there because if somehow you’re not scared to cheat on your partner you are scared to cheat on the LORD.
What’s your story? Let me know in the comments below!